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Be Present

16 Apr

Be Present

The Morning After Valentines Day

15 Feb

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How often do we choose to date ourselves? I mean really choose to make time to enjoy being alone? Too often we look to others to make us feel good, feel loved, and just feel like we are enough. This pattern of searching outside ourselves for fulfillment is why so many feel alone on the one day of the year we are reminded of the state of our relationships, Valentines day.
The truth is, you will only ever feel as loved as you feel towards yourself. No matter who you are with and what compliments you receive, unless you believe them for yourself, you will always feel doubt and insecure.
Even though I have created my own family, I still believe it’s important to take time to be with myself to truly reflect on my self worth. Being alone, is a true test to my self esteem. Feeling completely content and fulfilled while being alone, is the ultimate feedback that I am enough. The morning after Valentines feels oh so good ūüėä

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Having Children Kills Your Career and Your Health

15 Jan

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Women shouldn’t have to choose between having a thriving career, or having children but that is exactly the choice women must make. This must watch documentary explains the deplorable conditions mothers deal with today and how having children will kill your career and even your health.¬†

Goodbye San Francisco!

10 Mar

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I have officially decided to leave San Francisco and return home to Vancouver, British Columbia this summer :) I have definitely grown from the 2 years I have lived in this city and have come to realize, I much prefer living in Vancouver, Canada while raising children.
People always ask me with such enthusiasm how I love living in San Francisco…I always seem to burst their bubble with my response. I make sure to emphasize, my experience living in San Francisco would be much different, more positive, if I didn’t have 2 young daughters. I would embrace the debauchery and naked people if I wasn’t responsible for 2 very impressionable children. My reality is, I do have 2 young daughters who would benefit more from living in a modest city…without naked people, public displays of raunchy behavior¬†and all the other confusing sights you typically see in San Francisco. I don’t think a 7-year-old and 2-year-old need to be confronted with men in thongs biking by, nor should they have to walk through thick pot smoke on the way to the kids park (hello, Dolores Park). Furthermore, I don’t want to deal with my daughters’ issues in the future for exposing them to such things at such a young age.

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Dolores park…

I have had really good experiences living in San Fran, like the emphasis on building a clean city. I have learned a lot about composting…being forced to compost, or pay a fine is a great motivator :) I love the healthy food options here, the US has more products than Canada. I love going to farmer’s markets in the local neighborhoods. I really enjoy all the different venues and restaurants that are sure to leave a lasting impression. My favorite part about living in San Francisco are the people, people are so friendly here. There are no weirdos in San Francisco, people from all walks of life fit in.
My biggest life-changing experience from living in San Francisco will be my decision to go into Yoga Therapy as my next career move. By the time I move back to Vancouver, I will be nearly finished my Advanced Yoga Instructor and Yoga Therapist certification. My goal is to help people find true happiness and overcome the issues that are holding them back from finding fulfillment in life.
Thank you San Francisco for all the great experiences I have had and for helping me realize there really is no place like home…in Vancouver, Canada :)

Healing Powers of a Ketogenic Diet

19 Jan

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Only 2 days ago, I was severely sick. I was up all hours of the night vomiting, having night sweats and total body aches. It was so bad! I rarely ever get sick, the last time I remember being sick was a little over a year ago. I think that had more to do with my immune system being vulnerable due to being so sleep-deprived from having a baby. This time, having my toddler puke in my bed at 12 midnight may have had something to do with it…yuck! Today, I am back and feeling strong, thanks to a no sugar, low carb eating plan.

Disease feeds off of sugar¬†and I believe, from personal experience, if you remove the sugars¬†(including fruit sugars)¬†you can kill the viruses. This applies to most viruses. There has been a lot of talk lately about the healing powers of a ketogenic diet in regards to fighting cancer. Thank goodness, I haven’t dealt with anything close to cancer. I also don’t want to minimize the effects of cancer. I feel true sadness for those whose lives have been affected by cancer. I am happy to say, I don’t rely on the flu shot to ward off the flu, I pay strict attention to what I put in my body, including medications.

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For medications, I always go with holistic treatments first. As I become more educated on health, I have become more trusting in holistic health care before mainstream Doctors. I view holistic healthcare as preventative medicine, while western Doctors are more about disease management. Very similar reasons as to why I chose Midwives over Doctors. I appreciate the natural method above man-made anything. I don’t want to take a chance with my health and advise all to do your own research instead of taking advice from anyone…even those wearing a white coat. Yay, to feeling healthy in only 2 days!

Charles J. Sykes, 11 Rules of Life

16 Jan

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Charles J. Sykes wrote a powerful book about 50 things kid do not and will not learn in school. He talks about how feel-good, politically correct teachings created a generation of kids with no concept of reality and how this concept set them up for failure in the real world. Here is a top list of 11 rules of life.

Rule 1: Life is not fair – get used to it!

Rule 2: The world won’t care about your self-esteem. The world will expect you to accomplish something BEFORE you feel good about yourself.

Rule 3: You will NOT make $60,000 a year right out of high school. You won’t be a vice-president with a car phone until you earn both.

Rule 4: If you think your teacher is tough, wait till you get a boss.

Rule 5: Flipping burgers is not beneath your dignity. Your Grandparents had a different word for burger flipping: they called it opportunity.

Rule 6: If you mess up, it’s not your parents’ fault, so don’t whine about your mistakes; learn from them.

Rule 7: Before you were born, your parents weren’t as boring as they are now. They got that way from paying your bills, cleaning your clothes and listening to you talk about how cool you thought you were. So before you save the rain forest from the parasites of your parent’s generation, try delousing the closet in your own room.

Rule 8: Your school may have done away with winners and losers, but life HAS NOT. In some schools, they have abolished failing grades and they’ll give you as MANY TIMES as you want to get the right answer. This doesn’t bear the slightest resemblance to ANYTHING in real life.

Rule 9: Life is not divided into semesters. You don’t get summers off and very few employers are interested in helping you FIND YOURSELF. Do that on your own time.

Rule 10: Television is NOT real life. In real life people actually have to leave the coffee shop and go to jobs.

Rule 11: Be nice to nerds. Chances are you’ll end up working for one.

If you agree, pass it on.
If you can read this – Thank a teacher!
If you are reading it in English – Thank a soldier!!

Putting A Face On Suicide

11 Jan

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Every new year, people make resolutions for weight-loss, financial gain, or other clichéd matters in life. I am reminded that I lost both my brothers, Ricardo and Isaac, to suicide only a short time ago.

My older brother Ricardo, took his life December 31, 2006 so naturally, my loss is the 1st thing I think of at the beginning of every new year. (My younger brother Isaac took his life April 18, 2008)
The worst part of losing my brothers to suicide, aside from the very real missing piece in my heart,¬†is the lonely silence the loss creates. People no longer speak of my brothers, like their lives never mattered and people just go on with their own lives. I still struggle daily to make sense of it all and find strength to overcome my loss and pain. Even those closest to me stop asking how I’m doing, like I’m stamped with a new label of “strong” (I think this is really about me still breathing) so I am expected to go on and thrive despite my massive, life-crippling losses. It’s sad, lonely and painful.
My intention for sharing my losses is to make suicide less taboo to talk about and wake people up to the very common reality of young people ending their lives. My brother Ricardo took his life at only 27 -years-old and my brother Isaac took his life at a mere 22-years-old. Just for reference, I’m 29. We need to open up the lines of communication around suicide and reach out to those who feel alone and with such despair. Lives depend on us facing and talking about this very serious problem of suicide.

IMG_0902I want to share my memories so people realize the lives of my brothers, Ricardo and Isaac, mattered and will always matter to me and my family that has to live with this heart-breaking loss.

IMG_0903Family will always remain family, whether in person, or spirit.
IMG_0904My brother Ricardo started out like every other innocent child, with his whole life ahead of him. Sometimes, circumstances really do get the best of you. And no, I don’t believe you attract everything life sends your way.

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IMG_0906For some, not even Faith can save you from your pain.

IMG_0907My baby brother Isaac, I miss you every single day of my life.

IMG_0908You mattered and always will, Isaac.

IMG_0909Even those who appear happy are overcome with pain.

IMG_0910Lives reduced to nothing but ink on paper.

IMG_0911No one said life was going to be fair.

IMG_0912Ricardo and Isaac, forever in my heart and thoughts.
Never stop telling those you love how you feel, it matters more than you know.

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Family Time For The Holidays

21 Dec

202732420697544463_bD2wBGwP_cI’m logging off for some much-needed family time. Happy holidays to all and see you again in the New Year!

Maverick Family Freedom Event

7 Jul

Maverick Business Adventures hosted an entrepreneurial camp for kids in Utah this past week. It was far from a restful 5 days but totally worth it for our daughter to become even more inspired to start her own business. Forget the lemonade stand, we are aiming much higher for our 7-year-old :)

The 5-day camp started off with fun activities like hot air balloon rides at 6am in the morning. Sure, the early bird gets the worm, but I chose to sleep in with our little 1-year-old Sofia :) Thank goodness for dads ;)

The business workshops were very inspiring, as they were taught by a successful young guy who started his own business at age 12.

The kids were divided into groups and given products to sell at the 4th of July parade. My daughter’s team came in *second and earned $150 profit.

*The winning team “cheated” and used their products towards a fundraiser for the local fire department. I say “cheated” because we were told to teach our children the art and skills of selling their products. I believe there is a huge difference between asking people to purchase your items, and fundraising for a good cause. People are obviously going to be more willing to hand over their hard-earned money to support the local fire department than they are going to be purchasing random patriotic trinkets. I was definitely bummed the fundraising team won 1st place :( I do very much respect the team for taking on such a worthy cause. The forest fires were out of control in Utah.

Here’s my beauty all ready to sell her wrist bands.

Selling tip #1. ¬†It helps to have cute little girls on your team, you’ll make way more of a profit ;) Think about the Girl Scouts…they know how to run a business!

While the kids were away learning how to create and run a successful business, the parents heard Richard Eyre¬†briefly speak about how to create a successful family. He is a father of 9 after all :0 Here are the tips we learnt…

“Ownership is the antidote for entitlement and the prerequisite for responsibility.”

  1. Financial and Material Ownership- Establish an ownership-orientated, responsibility-sharing family economy. This is where kids earn money, spend wisely, save money, and give to those who are less fortunate.
  2. Family Laws- Teaching your kids Peace, Respect, Order, Asking, and Obedience
  3. Family Traditions- Kids love predictability and routine so it is very beneficial to create family traditions. You most likely already do this by celebrating Birthdays, Holidays, Dinner time, etc.

You can learn a lot more tips from Richard’s book, or on his website.

Overall, I think this camp was valuable for our daughter. If nothing else, she was inspired by her peers to create her own business. Would I travel with 2 kids to Utah next year for a camp? Only if there was a lot more for the parents to take away also. Maverick Business Adventures sound like a good time and I would definitely go to the adult events :)

Extinction of The Young Mom

14 Jun

Pretty much sums up my experience of being a 29-year-old mom of 2 living amongst 40+ year-old first time moms in San Francisco. Feels like living in the twilight zone :s

Can you relate?


John Ross (dad), 66, and Ann Maloney (mom), 60, with daughters Lily, 7, and Isabella, 10.


Fiona Palin (mom), 49, with daughter Kiki, 5 months.


Kate Garros (mom), 61, with twins John and Alexandra, 7.

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